Many women struggle trying to balance what’s best for their children, their families, and themselves. 

Whether to work or stay home after having children is a decision that can be wrought with guilt, anxiety and second-guessing. Women debate the issue with each other and most often, within themselves.

And studies and opinions abound showing an array of conflicting “best-case” scenarios.

Columbia University researchers published a study in 2010 that found it did not harm a child’s cognitive and social development for a mother to work during her baby’s first year of life.

Fran Walfish, Child and Family Psychotherapist and author of “The Self-Aware Parent” said it’s healthier for children under age five if their moms stay home to facilitate bonding and “consistently respond warmly and accurately to the baby’s needs,” in an interview on, a website that lists flexible, telecommuting and part-time positions.

Two studies published in 2003 showed that kids who spent all day in daycare had more stress and aggression than kids cared for at home, but a 1999 study showed kids in daycare do better academically and socially, according to parenting website

So, what do you think?

How did you decide whether to work or stay home with your children and how much of a struggle was that decision?

Did it end up being the right decision for your family?

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